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* Don't talk the person out of releasing their emotions, but **don' | * Don't talk the person out of releasing their emotions, but **don' | ||
* Do **not express approval or disapproval**, | * Do **not express approval or disapproval**, | ||
- | * Do **not encourage the person to verbalize** (at least not during the emotional release). Do NOT make the person talk, other that, as in my examples, to have them say their name or yours, or very trivial, general things and feelings. This is especially crucial if the person you're caring for is someone working in sensitive contexts where there are important security issues, if they are, for example, an exposed or high profile activist (which, in many cases, | + | * Do **not encourage the person to verbalize** (at least not during the emotional release). Do NOT make the person talk, other that, as in my examples, to have them say their name or yours, or very trivial, general things and feelings. This is especially crucial if the person you're caring for is someone working in sensitive contexts where there are important security issues, if they are, for example, an exposed or high profile activist (which you might not even be aware of). You are to keep them safe, and that includes to **keep them safe from having said, released, too much information**. This could leave them feeling anxious and terrible, who knows, it could keep them from sleeping at night, AFTER your session, ruining all the care and little trust that you had. Besides, it might also mean trouble and inquietude for you, having now in your possession information you would have been better NOT to have in the first place. Furthermore, |
* If you are genuinely worried though, if you feel that something here is really wrong, that this person should address certain serious issues, **wait for after the massage to have a conversation** about it. And, either propose a conversation with you (if, and only if, you feel you have the availability, | * If you are genuinely worried though, if you feel that something here is really wrong, that this person should address certain serious issues, **wait for after the massage to have a conversation** about it. And, either propose a conversation with you (if, and only if, you feel you have the availability, | ||
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* If the person is really distressed and degrading, not hearing you or your invitation to turn on their side, eyes closed, rapid breathing and so on, by all gentle means, **make them connect with you and with their surroundings**. Have them open their eyes, have them look you in the eyes, keep looking, have them look around, have them say their name, your name, listen to your voice, hang on to the continuous stream of kind words coming from your mouth etc. Here you might want to raise your voice a little and be assertive, although still soft and motherly. | * If the person is really distressed and degrading, not hearing you or your invitation to turn on their side, eyes closed, rapid breathing and so on, by all gentle means, **make them connect with you and with their surroundings**. Have them open their eyes, have them look you in the eyes, keep looking, have them look around, have them say their name, your name, listen to your voice, hang on to the continuous stream of kind words coming from your mouth etc. Here you might want to raise your voice a little and be assertive, although still soft and motherly. | ||
* Bring them **a glass of water** and help them drink it. | * Bring them **a glass of water** and help them drink it. | ||
- | * If you're lucky enough to have a garden or some patch of green near, gently but assertively **get them back up on their two feet,** have them walk around, and take them to that patch of raw earth. There. Grounded. Literally. If there is no green or grass, get them up and walking all the same indoors. Ground, ground, ground. | + | * If you're lucky enough to have a garden or some patch of green near, gently but assertively **get them back up on their two feet, have them walk around**, and take them to that patch of raw earth. There. Grounded. Literally. If there is no green or grass, get them up and walking all the same indoors. Ground, ground, ground. |
* If they are not calming down and this is going on too long and you are already feeling they are exhausting themselves through the emotional release, there' | * If they are not calming down and this is going on too long and you are already feeling they are exhausting themselves through the emotional release, there' | ||
- | Emily King, August 2016 (reviewed by M.) | + | //Emily King, August 2016 (reviewed by M.G)// |
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