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emotional_release_during_massage_-_what_s_happening_and_how_best_to_respond [2016/09/01 14:59]
emily [How to best respond to an emotional release in massage ?]
emotional_release_during_massage_-_what_s_happening_and_how_best_to_respond [2016/09/01 15:36] (current)
emily [Other things you can do to moderate or exit safely the intensity of an emotional release]
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   * If the person is really distressed and degrading, not hearing you or your invitation to turn on their side, eyes closed, rapid breathing and so on, by all gentle means, **make them connect with you and with their surroundings**. Have them open their eyes, have them look you in the eyes, keep looking, have them look around, have them say their name, your name, listen to your voice, hang on to the continuous stream of kind words coming from your mouth etc. Here you might want to raise your voice a little and be assertive, although still soft and motherly. ​   * If the person is really distressed and degrading, not hearing you or your invitation to turn on their side, eyes closed, rapid breathing and so on, by all gentle means, **make them connect with you and with their surroundings**. Have them open their eyes, have them look you in the eyes, keep looking, have them look around, have them say their name, your name, listen to your voice, hang on to the continuous stream of kind words coming from your mouth etc. Here you might want to raise your voice a little and be assertive, although still soft and motherly. ​
   * Bring them **a glass of water** and help them drink it.    * Bring them **a glass of water** and help them drink it. 
-  * If you're lucky enough to have a garden or some patch of green near, gently but assertively **get them back up on their two feet,** have them walk around, and take them to that patch of raw earth. There. Grounded. Literally. If there is no green or grass, get them up and walking all the same indoors. Ground, ground, ground. ​+  * If you're lucky enough to have a garden or some patch of green near, gently but assertively **get them back up on their two feet, have them walk around**, and take them to that patch of raw earth. There. Grounded. Literally. If there is no green or grass, get them up and walking all the same indoors. Ground, ground, ground. ​
   * If they are not calming down and this is going on too long and you are already feeling they are exhausting themselves through the emotional release, there'​s another thing you can try -it's a tricky one but if you feel like it : Get "​angry",​ show "​assertiveness"​. Like a LOVING, patient yet sensible and down to earth MOTHER would, say: "OK, **that'​s ENOUGH now**. Stop it. You're hurting yourself now. We can talk about this later if you want, and I will help you, but first you have got to calm down. Here, drink this water."​ And/or things like "​It'​s good that you are feeling and exploring these emotions /events, but you CAN'T stay there forever. Come back to me, come back to the here and now, come be with us " ​   * If they are not calming down and this is going on too long and you are already feeling they are exhausting themselves through the emotional release, there'​s another thing you can try -it's a tricky one but if you feel like it : Get "​angry",​ show "​assertiveness"​. Like a LOVING, patient yet sensible and down to earth MOTHER would, say: "OK, **that'​s ENOUGH now**. Stop it. You're hurting yourself now. We can talk about this later if you want, and I will help you, but first you have got to calm down. Here, drink this water."​ And/or things like "​It'​s good that you are feeling and exploring these emotions /events, but you CAN'T stay there forever. Come back to me, come back to the here and now, come be with us " ​
  
-Emily King, August 2016 (reviewed by M.)+//Emily King, August 2016 (reviewed by M.G)//
  
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