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   * Always observe the **precautions and contraindications**,​ consult the [[Massage precautions & contra indications sign]] ​   * Always observe the **precautions and contraindications**,​ consult the [[Massage precautions & contra indications sign]] ​
-  * Observe **hygiene and safety rules**: ​Wash your hands before and after each massage, use disposable paper covers or clean towels to protect the table, cushions, clothes... Work in a safe, clean, ventilated, space... Only use good quality, not rancid, ​products..+  ​* Respect each other. **No discriminative or prejudiced** speech, attitude or behaviour, **no violence, harassment, coercion** is ever appropriate.  
-  * Be **transparent and honest about your actual qualifications** in care-giving,​ do not pretend to have skills or knowledge you don't have. There is plenty magic amateur ​warm hands and heart can accomplish, really, so no need to brag.  +  ​* Observe **hygiene and safety rules**: ​wash your hands before and after each session, use disposable paper covers or clean towels to protect the table, cushions, clothes. Work in a safe, clean, ventilated, space. Only use good quality products. 
-  * Do not give a massage to someone who is not quite sure they want one, or who is intoxicated - here, like in love, it has to be a** YES**, from the beginning to the end. And you both can stop whenever ​you want ! ​ +  * Be **transparent and honest about your actual qualifications** in care-giving,​ do not pretend to have skills or knowledge you don't have. An attentive ​amateur can accomplish ​a great deal already, so no need to brag.  
-  * Respect **physical ​reserve**. No one has to take their clothes off for massage if they don't want to (very good massage ​can be done with clothes on). Similarly, if you, the giver, are not comfortable with full nudity, say it.  +  * Do not give a massage to someone who is not quite sure they want one. Here, like in love, it has to be a **YES**, from the beginning to the end. Anyone ​can decide to stop whenever ​they want.  ​ 
-  * Because ​massage induces ​relaxation ​in the nervous system it can sometimes trigger erection or **reactions similar to sexual arousal** in both men and women. It's not so frequent that you should worry about it, and besides, it is normal and really nothing to be ashamed of. The masseur/se should bear in mind that however sexual in appearance, these reactions might not be experienced ​exactly ​as such by the receiver, and so they should **never be considered an invitation to act sexually**. Leave them alone.  +  * Respect **physical ​reserves**. No one has to take their clothes off for massage if they don't want to (very good massages ​can be provided ​with clothes on). Similarly, if you, the giver, are not comfortable with nudity, ​you should ​say so.  
-  * Discuss **"​privacy settings"​** with your partner prior to massage - what would they be comfortable ​with ? Can you talk about this massage later with someone else ? Without mentioning their name, or not at all ? The privacy ​default setting in massage is "what goes on in the massage room stays in the massage room", period. ​To the point where you don'​t ​actually ​mention ​around ​that you have given a massage to “so and so”Remember, what may seem like a benign anecdote to you may not be for your friend, what is OK to tell or not OK to tell = Not your call !  +  * Because ​massages induce ​relaxation ​of the nervous systemit can sometimes trigger erection or **reactions similar to those of sexual arousal** in both men and women. It's not so frequent that you should worry about it, and besides, it is really nothing to be ashamed of. The masseur/se should bear in mind that however sexual in appearance, these reactions might not be experienced as such by the receiver, and so they should **never be considered ​as an invitation to act on them**.  
 +  * There can sometimes be surprising **emotional release** during massage (or other forms of care) Please familiarize yourself with this possibility reading our article [[Emotional Release during Massage - What's happening and How best to respond]]. Stay calm, composed, kind. Be especially wary and mindful of the possibility of personal information being revealed to you in that moment: Do NOT encourage words or let the person tell you too much about themselves. If necessary let them know that your reluctance to hear more is for their own good.  
 +  * Discuss **"​privacy settings"​** with your partner prior to the session − what would they be comfortable ​with? Can you talk about this massage later, to someone else? The default ​privacy ​setting in massage is "whatever happens ​in the massage roomstays in the massage room", period. ​Don't mention ​to others ​that you have given a massage to that someone 
 +  * Massage ​for **children**:​ Only in presence of their parent/​adult tutor - No one to one sessions. ​
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